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What if loneliness was a gift?

By Alison Cook | March 21, 2019

Loneliness gets a bad rap. And for good reason. One of our deepest, most basic human needs is to experience healthy attachment—or in non-psychological terms, to experience loving connection with someone who sees us. When you stop numbing, one of the first painful emotions you may encounter is loneliness. And loneliness is a double-whammy. It often...

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4 steps to turn your daydreaming into reality making

By Alison Cook | February 21, 2019

As a kid, I used to create complex daydreams all the time – in vivid detail. I would dream about my future, where I lived, even what I’d be wearing and the fabulous 80’s hairstyles I’d take with me into my imagined future. 🤫 Back then, this make-believe world I created was soothing – it...

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When you or someone you love is self-destructing

By Alison Cook | February 12, 2019

On a hot summer day, Margaret marched into my office sporting a black, long-sleeve sweatshirt with an image of a giant middle finger on it. I liked her immediately. I’ve learned that the bolder the armor, the more tender the heart. Twenty-two going on forty, Margaret worked two jobs to make ends meet. She wanted...

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4 questions to ask when it comes to setting boundaries with your phone

By Alison Cook | January 29, 2019

Imagine a day without your phone. . . Does a quick hit of Instagram make the grocery store line bearable? Are you texting your friends more than you’re talking to them? If you’re panicked at the thought of a day without your phone, it might be time to set some boundaries with your internal phone...

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Authentic connection

A simple way to connect authentically this holiday season

By Alison Cook | December 12, 2018

How are you doing? Whenever somebody asks me this question, I tend to get very deer in the headlights. A flurry of words dance through my mind. Typically the first one I land on is Good! followed by panic as my English teacher mom’s voice surfaces. . . .or is it Well? which never sounds...

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Guest Post at AnnVoskamp.com

By Alison Cook | October 29, 2018

Thanks so much to the lovely Ann Voskamp for featuring my story—adapted from Chapter 5 of Boundaries for Your Soul —on her blog this week. It’s about how my journey to becoming a psychologist was disrupted when I had to face my own overwhelming emotions and learn to befriend them. If you’re anything like me,...

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thriving in chaos

You can thrive in summer, even when your schedule is falling apart

By Alison Cook | July 30, 2018

I always struggled to thrive in summer, even before I had a family. On one hand, I enjoy the happy chaos, but my soul tends to take a beating without the natural rhythms of a school year. In the absence of a set structure, I default to adapting my day-to-day routines around the needs of...

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Taking a You-Turn with Your Emotions

By Alison Cook | July 17, 2018

There was such a strong response to this devotion I recently wrote for Proverbs 31.org that I wanted to share it here to continue the conversation about coping with our most challenging emotions. Let me know about your own journey in the comments! ~Alison   “The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding...

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Three Steps to Healing Painful Emotions

By Alison Cook | June 15, 2018

The first step to healing painful emotions is to focus on them. This may sound counter-intuitive, but it’s true. I didn’t really learn how to focus on and heal painful emotions until I was well into adulthood. It’s not that I didn’t have painful emotions, don’t get me wrong! It’s just that I was adept...

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Courage

Finding Courage When All You Feel is Fear

By Alison Cook | May 29, 2018

Did you know it takes fear to have courage? A few years ago, I found myself facing a fearful set of circumstances. I knew God was calling me to do something that was going to be extremely difficult for me. I needed to take a stand that pushed against the grain of nearly every part...

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When Curiosity Becomes a Calling

By Alison Cook | May 7, 2018

How do you know when what you are curious about is actually a calling? I can be curious about almost everything. I’m delighted by people who excel at home design or gardening – I want to learn all about how they do it. If you give me a budget, I want to figure out how...

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True Guilt vs. False Guilt

By Alison Cook | March 19, 2018

Have you wondered if you have an overly sensitive conscience? Maybe you’re struggling to understand true guilt vs. false guilt. And it has everything to do with developing a mature conscience. The bestselling authors of Boundaries, John Townsend and Henry Cloud say, “Our conscience isn’t God. It’s part of living in a fallen world, and...

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