Relationships

When you need a rest from your inner task manager

By Alison Cook | November 21, 2018

A need isn’t always your personal call to action. My dad wrote this on a sticky note once and pasted it to his bathroom mirror. At the time, I didn’t really understand – I was a young kid. I just knew that my dad – a bastion of encouragement and helpful support – thought enough...

Continue Reading »

Controlling others or confident leadership?

By Alison Cook | October 3, 2018

Would you rather lead by controlling others. . .or by empowering them? The answer to this question is pretty obvious. Controlling others gets a bad rap, and for good reason. Controlling behaviors can lead to manipulation, abuse of power, and boundary violations. On the other hand, we do want to have “self-control” and we also...

Continue Reading »

The 5 signs that your desire to please others has become extreme

By Alison Cook | September 26, 2018

The desire to please others isn’t all bad. But when the desire to please becomes extreme, it keeps you from tending to a more vulnerable part of your own soul in need. When you focus always on the needs of others, you risk neglecting your deepest desires. You also may be avoiding your fears and...

Continue Reading »

How to bring peace to others

When you want to bring peace to others

By Alison Cook | July 24, 2018

We want to bring peace to others. Unfortunately, our loved ones’ struggles often trigger our own troubling emotions, making it difficult to be of real help. When someone shares a need or frustration, the following four types of responses are common but not always most helpful. Do you recognize your own go-to method here? Agreement....

Continue Reading »

How to improve connection

How to Regain Connection to God, Others, and Yourself

By Alison Cook | July 10, 2018

We want to be close to God and to others. . . but did you know that connection starts with you? We all crave the experience of being seen and loved for who we really are. And we rejoice when someone we love lets us in to see them for who they really are. Such...

Continue Reading »

When Pleasing Becomes a Drug

By Alison Cook | February 15, 2018

Pleasing is a drug that can be lethal not only to your friendships but also to yourself and to your relationship with God. Jesus said, “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other” (Matthew 6:24)....

Continue Reading »

Cultivating Healthy Distance

By Alison Cook | February 5, 2018

“Healthy distance” is a phrase that has been on my mind a lot lately as I help people grapple with difficult relationships. My mom always used to say, “some people are loved best from a distance.” I never really understood this saying until I began to think about the parts of ourselves that carry conflicting...

Continue Reading »

Join my e-newsletter and get two free e-books!

Join my e-newsletter and get two free e-books, She’s Better Than Me and 3 Secrets to Self-Leadership!

Office Address:
1666 Massachusetts Avenue, Suite F1
Lexington, MA