Befriending Emotions

When your shaming inner critic meets gentleness

By Alison Cook | November 7, 2018

What is the club you beat yourself with? Take a moment and consider your internal dialogue. Do you ever notice thoughts like these: You should be more like her. He’s so successful. If you were better, you’d be where he is. You deserve this bad thing that’s happened. You’ll never be as good as other...

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Guest Post at AnnVoskamp.com

By Alison Cook | October 29, 2018

Thanks so much to the lovely Ann Voskamp for featuring my story—adapted from Chapter 5 of Boundaries for Your Soul —on her blog this week. It’s about how my journey to becoming a psychologist was disrupted when I had to face my own overwhelming emotions and learn to befriend them. If you’re anything like me,...

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How To Calm Your Worry

How to calm your worry

By Alison Cook | October 17, 2018

My, friend, Nicole, could not calm her worry. She worried about everything: she worried that if she didn’t marry, she would grow old alone—and that if she were to marry, her husband would end up cheating on her. She worried that if she stayed in her job, she would burn out—and that if she left...

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an extreme emotion

How to Identify a Part of Your Soul in Need

By Alison Cook | August 8, 2018

If you’re struggling with an extreme emotion, a hurting part of your soul might need your attention. Typically, an extreme emotion, such as anger or anxiety, or an overwhelming compulsion, such as over-thinking or people-pleasing, is a cue that some other more vulnerable part of your soul needs your attention. Let’s say you’re feeling irritable,...

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Taking a You-Turn with Your Emotions

By Alison Cook | July 17, 2018

There was such a strong response to this devotion I recently wrote for Proverbs 31.org that I wanted to share it here to continue the conversation about coping with our most challenging emotions. Let me know about your own journey in the comments! ~Alison   “The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding...

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how to hold sadness in your heart

Guest Post | Kimberly Miller

By Alison Cook | July 15, 2018

The wonderful Ann Voskamp featured a post by my co-author, Kimberley Miller, recently.  It’s called “When You Need to Know How to Hold the Overwhelming Sadness in Your Heart,” and it’s a moving and inspiring reflection about finding peace amidst chaos and grief. I think you’ll like it. Let us know your thoughts below or over...

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calm your emotions at the ocean

Three Steps to Healing Painful Emotions

By Alison Cook | June 15, 2018

The first step to healing painful emotions is to focus on them. This may sound counter-intuitive, but it’s true. I didn’t really learn how to focus on and heal painful emotions until I was well into adulthood. It’s not that I didn’t have painful emotions, don’t get me wrong! It’s just that I was adept...

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Courage

Finding Courage When All You Feel is Fear

By Alison Cook | May 29, 2018

Did you know it takes fear to have courage? A few years ago, I found myself facing a fearful set of circumstances. I knew God was calling me to do something that was going to be extremely difficult for me. I needed to take a stand that pushed against the grain of nearly every part...

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True Guilt vs. False Guilt

By Alison Cook | March 19, 2018

Have you wondered if you have an overly sensitive conscience? Maybe you’re struggling to understand true guilt vs. false guilt. And it has everything to do with developing a mature conscience. The bestselling authors of Boundaries, John Townsend and Henry Cloud say, “Our conscience isn’t God. It’s part of living in a fallen world, and...

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